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What is blocking your Perfect Partner?

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Do you have a track record of failed relationships and have given up on finding the right one?


Do you desperately want someone to share your life with but are convinced there's no good men or women left?


This post is for you.


I was once in your shoes .... an almost forty year old mother, divorced and ready to date. For years I convinced myself that I wasn't meant to find someone or that all the good men were taken, or that they had too much baggage to commit. I made excuses why my relationships weren't working out or why there seemed to be no chance of me meeting someone. My attitude was all wrong.


In order to find the perfect partner, the work begins with YOU.


So, you say, “Jenn! Give me the steps I need to complete in order to find my perfect person!”


Well, here it is...in shortened form.


(You may have to go deeper depending on your situation but I can give you a running start.)


First, get real with yourself about the kind of person you are looking for.


You need to get really clear about what you are looking for in a mate.


CALL TO ACTION:

I recommend that you make a list of qualities that encompass how you see your perfect person. Is he tall, thoughtful, caring, affectionate, loves kids, sporty, works out, ambitious, kind, has lots of friends, likes to stay at home, social butterfly, loves to read, educated, etc? The more specific the better. Come back to this list every once and awhile. Chances are the person may not have all the traits you are looking for but it helps to have several traits that are non-negotiable and others that are not so important.


The more specific you are and the more you know who you are looking for, the less time you will waste on those who just don't fit the bill.


Failed relationships happen when your expectations are not being met. This comes from a lack of not knowing what you really want and settling for whoever comes along, when they may be better suited for someone else. This is not a bad thing, but the more time you spend in the wrong relationship, the less time you spend in the right one.


Second, know your own set of values and what you bring to the relationship.


When you know what you value and you live by it, you don't compromise. This creates more confidence and joy in your life.


If you know you value honesty and it is a priority in your relationship, you will not stand for someone who has proved to be dishonest. If you compromise on your values, you become discontented and come to resent your partner.


CALL TO ACTION:

Make a list of your values and beliefs and put them in order of most important to least important.


Third, take care of yourself, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.


This was the most important part for me. You may ask what the heck this has to do with finding a mate? My answer is EVERYTHING.


If you are not taking care of yourself, your relationships are never going to work. If you're putting everyone else first, they will come to treat you the same way....by putting you last.


The saying, “You teach people how to treat you”, is common for a reason.


Learn to treat yourself with kindness, with patience, and with importance. Do the things you love and make time for a daily me-practice.


It wasn't until I began meditating, exercising, feeding my body with good food, and doing the things that brought joy to my life, did I manifest the person I was looking for.


He seemed to land in my lap just when I was pulling my shit together and enjoying my life as a single mother.


He fulfilled my list and held the same values and beliefs I did.


You know when you first meet someone and you do a lot of your talking and figuring each other out and you instantly click? When your conversations seem to have a lot of... “Oh my god! ME Too!!”, in them. That's what connection is like. A feeling of excitement and, I can't believe we have this much in common!


I want that for you too!


If you would like to delve further into your blocks and see what is holding you back from finding your perfect person, please get in touch here.


Take care of yourself.

XO Jenn

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